Can Birth Control Cause Death?

Could a medication you’re on be causing the death of a loved one?

As Christians of the 21st Century, we seek to be fathers to the fatherless and voices to the voiceless, as Jesus has called us to be. Many of us have spent time volunteering at crisis pregnancy centers, or have donated money or resources to pro-life organizations, or have helped individuals who were abortion minded. And yet there is another side to this discussion of life and death decisions that is considered too private to be discussed. Did you know that this rather unspoken area is one 90% of Christians unite on [1], agreeing to it and even promoting it?

This rather shushed area, is called birth control.

In our culture, it’s a given that when two people are married, they better be on birth control until they feel ready to have kids. As a matter of fact, a majority of Christian premarital counseling courses endorse and even encourage its use; not to mention doctors and other healthcare professionals. For such reasons, couples feel secure using hormonal or mechanical* birth control regularly.

To all the people my age (17 and younger), have you ever thought that the subject of birth control relates to you?

You may not be currently using birth control, but I can almost guarantee that it will be recommended for your use or your spouse’s use in the future. And it very well could cause the death of those you are closest to.

When, for example, a woman takes hormonal birth control, she is either receiving a dosage of estrogen and progesterone or just progesterone. The estrogen/progesterone pill sends a message to the woman’s brain that she is pregnant, which leads the body to stop the release of more eggs from the ovaries. But birth control is not very effective in this; often eggs are still released into the fallopian tubes and the egg gets fertilized and becomes an embryo - a living human being. The developers of the pill were well aware of this fact; and that’s why they added in the progesterone. The progesterone has a different job; it hardens the lining of the uterus. After 7-14 days in the fallopian tubes, the embryo descends into the uterus, and if this baby’s momma has been on the pill, it will be nearly impossible for it to implant; thus it will most likely die.

The loss of life is sad enough, but there is another side to the pill; in 2005 the UN’s International Agency on Research on Cancer recorded in their report “Monograph 91” that estrogen-progesterone combination drugs was a group 1 carcinogen for breast, cervical, and liver cancer [2]. Women who use mechanical or hormonal birth control are actually placing themselves at far greater risk for cancer, blood clots, and heart attacks, according to Dr. Angela Lanfranchi, a breast surgeon and clinical assistant professor of surgery at Robert Wood Johnson Medical School [3].

In January, the anniversary of Roe v. Wade reminded us again of the horrifying statistics that over 58,000,000 lives have been taken by abortion. That’s more lives than the total population of Myanmar! How many lives, would you estimate, have been taken through birth control? How many little lives, just at the very beginning, were starved to death since they were unable to implant into the uterus and get food from mommy? This should break our hearts, as it breaks our Jesus’s heart, and it should drive us to action as well.

What are you doing today to be a voice for those little, little ones that even a majority of pro-life organizations have overlooked? Would you be willing to stand in the gap for them?

Imagine, a few years down the road, that you have a little girl. She has your eyes, and adores life. She’s the apple of your eye, and you love to get down to her level and play together. But one day, you get a call; your little Susie has somehow begun to starve to death. Your friend on the phone tells you that there’s no way she’ll make it longer than a few days if she doesn’t get some food in her quickly.

What would you do?

If I was in this situation, I would do absolutely everything I could to get to my little girl and bring her some food before it was too late; and I would call the people I considered my friends and ask them “Will you help my little Susie? She’s starving to death!”

Each of these precious lives that are ended by birth control are God’s “Susie’s.” He loves each of them and has called us to stand in the gap for them [4]. This is not optional, it is a commission from our King. We are called to be “a father to the fatherless.”

A famous speaker once said, “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” If we do not stand to protect these lives, who will?

What are some practical ways we can protect these little ones?

- Personally choose not to use birth control

In the future, expect to be asked by your health professional about birth control. It’s not only recommended for preventing pregnancy; it is also suggested for controlling acne, regulating cycles, or to reduce cramping. Each of these side effects can often be treated naturally or with other medications.

- Graciously speak up on their behalf

Would you be willing to graciously speak up if you heard someone talking about birth control? Each of us have two things: a voice and influence in others lives. If we use these things to protect these vulnerable little ones, they can have a chance at life that they might not have had otherwise.

One fast and effective way to speak up on their behalf is to share blog posts or videos on social media; it starts conversations and gives helpful and important information. Check out a few of these links:

• The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know By Kristen Clark
• The Not-So-Golden Anniversary of the Pill By Mary Kassian
• Surgeon: Birth Control Pill a ‘Molotov Cocktail’ for Breast Cancer
• PODCAST: Embracing God’s Gift of Children By Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth
• VIDEO: Birth Control Pills Cause Embryonic Abortions
• VIDEO: How The Pill Kills {on the health risks of birth control}

- Consider embryo adoption in the future

Another way you can be an advocate for these little ones is to consider embryo adoption in the future. After couples have an in vitro fertilization treatment, there are often embryos left over that are either thrown out, donated to science, or put away in bio freezers. These little embryos who do not have a chance at life until they are adopted.

“When a couple goes through IVF, the doctors create as many embryos as possible because it costs a lot, physically and financially, to retrieve the eggs and fertilize the embryos. One to three embryos are transferred into the woman’s uterus, and the rest are frozen… Embryos are considered property under federal law.” (Embryo Adoption Awareness Center)

We can do something about all of these precious little ones who are frozen in time in bio freezers all over the US; let’s be advocates for these valuable lives!

To find out more about embryo adoption, check out these links:

• An embryo adoption story:

• http://www.adeyesalem.com/2011/12/keller-family-choosing-to-give-life/  

• Embryo adoption agencies:

• http://www.miracleswaiting.org/
• http://www.embryoadoption.org/
• https://www.nightlight.org/snowflakes-embryo-adoption-donation/embryo-adoption/

These little ones can be saved if each one of us personally chooses to stand up and be an advocate for these lives!

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* Due to the fact that this article was first presented as a speech with a time limit, mechanical birth control was not sufficiently addressed in this post. But from the research I have done, I most definitely believe that IUDs and other forms of mechanical birth control can and do cause embryonic abortions. As Colorado Right to Life has said: “By redefining an established term, the abortion and pharmaceutical industries could mislead women by selling them ‘contraceptives’ that in fact do not only prevent ‘conception’ but were also designed to kill the tiniest children by preventing implantation so they cannot continue to grow in their mother's wombs. Such ‘contraceptives’ are not contraceptive, but are mechanical (IUD) or chemical (pills) abortifacient ‘birth control.’" [Source]

1. Poll: http://www.gallup.com/poll/154799/americans-including-catholics-say-birth-control-morally.aspx

2. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1f3qTt1YDk [see also: https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/surgeon-birth-control-pill-a-molotov-cocktail-for-breast-cancer]

3. Ibid
4. A similar illustration was first presented by Pastor Eric Ludy in his short film "Depraved Indifference."  

When Abortion Makes Sense: Corinne's Story

There was a girl living in Constanța, Romania; she was poor, unemployed, and lived with her family. Eventually, with only a 7th grade education, at the age of 18 she found herself pregnant. Her boyfriend was not in the picture; she was trapped. Her father was not happy about this news at all; he told her that he expected more of her, and pressured to go have an abortion and forget about this baby. At that time in Romania, seventeen out of every twenty children were aborted.

She was faced with a decision; it seemed like everyone was against her. Her dad definitely wouldn’t be satisfied if she chose life. She had so many questions: “How will I have enough money to raise a child? I’m out of a job!”, “I don’t know how to be a mother and I know I’m not prepared. Wouldn’t my child be better off aborted? Her life would be so hard!”, “If I don’t have an abortion, what will I do with this baby? Won’t she end up in one of the horrible orphanages? She would be so sad alone.”   

Against all expectations and odds, the young mom - named Elena - chose life. Soon the nine months were complete, and she was whisked back to the delivery room, and gave birth to a beautiful dark haired baby girl; she gave her the name “Luiza.” She was absolutely lovely, and so worth choosing life.

Elena was fearful, but had come to a decision. She was not ready to raise Luiza on her own and chose to give her up for adoption.

Soon her little baby was sent to an orphanage. Luiza awoke to find herself in a room full of cribs; there were multitudes of babies crying and just a few staff members to care for them. She was placed in her own crib with a small blanket. As she laid down, the little one in the next crib over cried out - scared and unsure of what was going on - so one of the workers quickly mixed some formula and water into a bottle and put it in the little one’s mouth to quiet the wailing. Each of the workers felt completely overwhelmed; in the past ten years a statistic had been taken that there were more than 100,000 children in government institutions in Romania [1], and the orphanage did not have nearly enough money to hire the number of staff they would need to take care of this many children.

Luiza felt forsaken. She had never bonded with anyone; she felt utterly alone. It was no use to cry; she could rock herself back and forth, but other than that, there was hardly ever comfort for little Luiza.

Until one day. In the office of the orphanage, the director was looking through some new papers from a family from the United States who wanted to adopt a baby girl. There were so many girls who so badly needed to be adopted out of this orphanage; how were they going to choose which one to pair them up with?

They came to a decision that Luiza would be the one they would match with the American family. She was quickly sent to a foster home where she would be cared for by a foster mom named Mama Maria, a widow who lived in the Constanța area, until her adoptive family arrived to take her home. Mama Maria took wonderful care of Luiza; for the first time in her life, Luiza bonded with someone. She loved to spend time in the outdoor garden with her foster mom; Mama Maria poured her life into her.

One day two strangers arrived at Mama Maria’s house. Luiza did not know what was going on, being only thirteen months old. Mama Maria was acting stiff and keeping her tightly in her arms. But the time had arrived, and Luiza now had a new family who was going to take her home. With much sadness that she masked with a smile, Mama Maria handed her precious Luiza over to her new mom.

“Corinne Luiza, we love you!”

What did that mean? Didn’t these foreigners know that Luiza only understood Romanian? And what did this crazy word “Corinne” mean? Was this an odd sounding American food? The little girl was unsure…

Luiza was rather emotionless toward her new family; she wanted her other life back. She decided that she only liked the guy - her new dad - but she was very afraid to connect with her new mom. She didn’t want to be neglected or taken again, as had already happened so many times in her short life.

Eventually, with tears coming down her face, Luiza - now officially known as “Corinne” - boarded the plane with her mom and dad. Leaving behind all she had ever known - the orphanage, Mama Maria, and Romania itself - she had a new life. She peered out the window for one last look at the beautiful country, before falling asleep.

Eventually the last connecting flight landed, and Corinne began a fresh chapter of her life. In the years to come, her life was radically changed from being a sad, broken little girl, to a radiant and healed daughter of the King - she had come to know Jesus as her personal savior.

I am so blessed to say that I have the privilege of knowing this girl personally. Corinne’s life is marked by a glowing joy and a deep love for Jesus. She has faced a huge amount of pain in her life - due to the circumstances of her earliest years - but instead of becoming bitter, Corinne has chosen to forgive.

She was unintentionally ignored nearly every day of the first few months of her life while she was living in the understaffed orphanage. This was crushing to her - and the many other children in that orphanage. They were, in a large sense, abandoned. And for this reason, many people look at the lives of such orphans and conclude that they would have been better off aborted. Abortion seemed to make sense; people would tell themselves that these kids would live very difficult and often hunger-filled lives in the orphanages, and then be sent out on the street when they aged out of government care.

It is extremely sad that so many little Romanian orphans had these types of experiences. There were so few people willing to serve these kids, and as a result, many of them have emotional trauma, physical issues from being underfed, or engage in crime (such as stealing) to get the food and resources they need, if they were living on the street.

Each of these individuals who was orphaned in Romania - and other places in the world - is massively valuable in Jesus’ eyes. Yet so few are willing to stand in the gap for these lives. Many Americans spend their evenings contented in front of the TV eating their fat-filled foods while children like Corinne are lying in cribs, crying out to just be held and loved.

There is a serious problem if we are professing to know Jesus Christ, who has said, “...It is not the will of your Father who is in Heaven that one of these little ones should perish”  (Matthew 18:14), while we just stand by. Jesus didn’t save me so I could just passively go from one day to the next - promoting my own agenda and dreams - I have been redeemed to know Him and to make Him known.

If His heart is aching for these children, the young mothers, and struggling families, then what are we doing spending $600 on a prom dress, investing hours into Instagram, and complaining about our school classes? Our Jesus hasn’t stopped being a Father to the fatherless! Are we about to?

There is an attitude in our culture that if someone might possibly have a hard life, then we’re doing them a favor to have them aborted. Often doctors, social workers, and Planned Parenthood personnel have told mothers that due to illness, home factors, parental age, or possible poverty, that the only logical decision would be to end their child’s life. Such statements sound loudly of influence from Margaret Sanger - the founder of Planned Parenthood - who once said, “The most merciful thing that a family does to one of its infant members is to kill it.” [2]

I challenge all who think this way to look into Corinne’s eyes and see that even though she was born to a very young unwed mother and was practically abandoned, her life is not in any way less valuable than any of our lives, and it truly isn’t any less wonderful either. Corinne is so glad her mom chose life; she doesn’t wish she had been aborted - as the culture tells us these abandoned individuals wish. She is thankful for the circumstances of her past, and the Lord is using them to allow others to see how beautiful every single life is to Him.

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[1] http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2014/02/20/280237833/orphans-lonely-beginnings-reveal-how-parents-shape-a-childs-brain

[2] http://www.lifenews.com/2013/03/11/10-eye-opening-quotes-from-planned-parenthood-founder-margaret-sanger/

Orphanage Photo Courtesy (1) Association for Diplomatic Studies and Training (2) NRP.org (3) Daily Mail

What Pro-Choice April Didn’t Know About Her Little Son

At 18 weeks of age, little James was nestled warmly in his momma’s womb. He was about the size of a bell pepper; roughly 5 ½ inches long, and growing more every day.  There wasn’t anything James enjoyed more than his momma’s voice, and sometimes, almost as a reply, he would give a firm kick back. He hadn’t been held in her arms yet, but he felt secure and loved.

James wasn’t the only one excited; his mom, April, was over the moon to have him on the way. After marrying the love of her life, she couldn’t wait to see their little family start growing. A few years after they were married, April’s dream to become a momma was confirmed with a visit to the doctor’s office. Her life was full of smiles; she could tell exciting things were ahead.

Fast forward a few months. April and her husband found themselves at a specialist, being told something they didn’t want to hear; their little boy had lethal skeletal dysplasia. In his specific case, James had such a narrow rib cage that his lungs wouldn’t be able to develop correctly. This did not affect him in the womb at all, but when he was born, he would have to be put on a ventilator.

Little James felt shaky; his mom was crying many tears. He had no way of knowing that the doctor had recommended his death. April was referred to Planned Parenthood. Within three weeks of his happy 18 week birthday, James started feeling something painful; something was tugging his foot. An abortion specialist was at work; if the doctor was successful, James’ heart would not be beating in less than an hour.

April walked out of the clinic that day assuring herself with the thought “I can’t imagine having given birth and watching my son suffer. I can’t imagine holding him and watching him take his last breath, and knowing that that would be painful for him.”

James did suffer, despite his mother’s hope to spare him. And he did take his last breath painfully, as his tiny body was yanked from her uterus. April may have had the best intentions for her son, but sadly she was deceived by her doctor and Planned Parenthood that her son would have had such a rough life that a quick abortion would be a much better alternative.

This baby boy’s birthday is never celebrated. His death is not one people care about; whenever he comes to his mom’s mind, she reminds herself that she was merciful to him by choosing to end his life. This little one isn’t just an illustration - this baby boy lived twenty-one short weeks before he was murdered.

He was not loved after his diagnosis; he was not wanted after doctors found him to be ”less than perfect.” And he was not named - after all, he was just a fetus. Nothing more than a clump of cells, according to Planned Parenthood.

So I have given him a name today; I have stopped to grieve for him.

Created, not an accident

Did you know that if I had been aborted, you most likely wouldn’t even notice? Have you ever thought about the fact that when you go to the grocery store, there should be more people shopping with you?  Our schools have absent students who are not accounted for; churches have empty seats that should be filled with missing people. There’s a pair of shoes for sale at Target right now that would have been sold, but their potential owner hasn’t been seen. There are babies in Rwanda waiting to be adopted, but the young lady God intended to use to rescue from their dangerous circumstances wasn’t ever granted a birth certificate, let alone a visa. Scientists talk about the need to find a cure for Alzheimer’s Disease, but the individual with the mind to understand an unexplored avenue of neuroscience is missing in action.

Who are all these people, you ask? These are the faces of the fifty-eight million babies murdered in abortion. That’s more lives than the total number of people living in Myanmar!

It is estimated that at a certain abortion clinic in Grand Rapids, near where I live, in forty days 256 lives are taken. If 256 people were killed in your city, the news would be exploding with headlines like “Mass Murder in St. Louis Leaves Town Devastated” or “FBI Investigation of Recent Chicago Killings.”

But no. The media says next to nothing about these brutally murdered kids. The government calls this “a personal choice.” If your sister was killed tomorrow, would you call that the killer’s personal choice? “Well, I mean, if he really thinks my sister would be better off dead, then, yeah, he’s probably right!” I don’t think so.

58 million lives have been taken, but something else has also been lost too. 58 million mothers have been deprived of the beautiful little one God intended for them to have. 58 million dads will never hold their aborted son or daughter in their arms. Countless siblings will never even know the name of a killed baby sister or brother.

Once a lady from church came up to my mom while she was expecting my triplet siblings and asked her, “Wouldn’t it just be easier if you lost one of your babies?” My mom was shocked! She already knew these three little babies so well even though they hadn’t even been born yet, and although she knew it was going to be hard to go from having 1 child (me) to having 4 kiddos, she loved each of us. She was going to do everything she could to protect her little ones.

My mom was asked that question nearly fourteen years ago, and I highly doubt that lady would ask such a question if she could have looked each of my three siblings in the eyes and seen how each of them are made in God’s image and have an important place in the body of Christ.

Often, those of us who have been attending church for all our lives think we’re doing fine as long as we mentally agree that abortion is wrong, but I completely disagree. As A.W. Tozer has said, “You have not done anything about truth until you have acted on it.”

Why are you pro-life? It shouldn’t be simply because your pastor said he’s pro-life or because it seems like the more moral choice; we are standing for life because this is on our Jesus’s heart. He has called us to be a voice for the voiceless. Check out what His Word has to say:

• “Defend the poor and fatherless: do justice to the afflicted and needy” (Psalm 82:3 KJV).
• “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world” (James 1:27 ESV).
• “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling” (Psalm 68:5 NIV).
• “Is not this the fast that I choose: to loose the bonds of wickedness, to undo the straps of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to break every yoke? Is it not to share your bread with the hungry and bring the homeless poor into your house; when you see the naked, to cover him, and not to hide yourself from your own flesh? Then shall your light break forth like the dawn, and your healing shall spring up speedily; your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the LORD shall be your rear guard. Then you shall call, and the LORD will answer; you shall cry, and he will say, ‘Here I am.’ If you take away the yoke from your midst, the pointing of the finger, and speaking wickedness, if you pour yourself out for the hungry and satisfy the desire of the afflicted, then shall your light rise in the darkness and your gloom be as the noonday” (Isaiah 58:6-10 ESV).
• “‘Truly, I say to you, as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me’” (Matthew 25:45b ESV).

Standing for life on a day to day basis

How can we practically be speaking out on behalf of these little ones and help save these lives?

• Volunteer at a Christian crisis pregnancy center

One way you can be a voice to these little ones is by volunteering at a local Christian crisis pregnancy center. Often there are opportunities at these centers that can involve any age. For example, you might be able to sort baby clothes, help with cleaning and organizational projects, shovel the center’s driveway, take a shift as a receptionist, or help counsel women. Try searching Google for a center near you.

• Be willing to speak

Don’t be afraid to boldly & graciously speak up. You can use social media, art, writing, and so much more to speak out. When your friends, family, or even random strangers start talking about abortion, ask them some thought provoking questions. For example:

• Do you believe that life starts at conception?
• Did you know that babies can feel pain starting as early as 8 weeks along?
• Have you ever wondered why our country punishes violations of the fetal homicide law, but doesn’t seem too worried about abortion?
• Can I tell you a story about ____[name of abortion survivor, etc]?
• Did you know that God designed every strand of DNA in your body? It’s so cool! And your entire genetic makeup is complete at conception!
• Did you know that the reason I’m pro-life is simply because God is the giver of life?

• Make a donation

You can financially support a number of organizations that keep Jesus Christ at the center of their pro-life ministry. By giving financial resources, you can help an organization to reach even further in their ministry to at-risk moms & families. Check out: Life Matters World Wide, The Drop Box, and Alpha Family Center.

• Watch an edifying pro-life movie with some friends

Having a few friends over and turning on an edifying movie can be a great way to influence friends, and it can also strike up some great conversations! I have been personally convicted and encouraged by:

• Amazing Grace - The story of William Wilberforce who fought for the end of slavery in England
• The Dropbox -  A documentary style film about a pastor from South Korea who installed a large drop box in the front of his house where moms could bring their babies if they did not feel able to raise them.
• The Hiding Place - The movie made from Corrie ten Boom’s autobiography about rescuing Jews from the Nazis'.

This is in no way meant to be an exhaustive list of ways to stand for life; these are just a few ways you could get started.

As we each live our daily lives, may we never forget “James” and the countless other lives which have been brutally taken for gain. Planned Parenthood has an agenda; their goal is to have every high school girl coming through their doors for 3-5 abortions before they get their diplomas. [1]  Let’s  see to it that each of us personally reaches out to the single moms and young pregnant girls in our lives in Christ’s love. Be willing to speak the truth in love, and find practical ways you can serve them.

We will each answer to God for how we are responding to our death culture. Are we obeying His leading and standing in the gap for these children and vulnerable mothers?

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[1] http://lastresistance.com/planned-parenthood-sex-ed-classes-aimed-produce-3-5-abortions-per-student/

Feminism and the Gospel: Continuing the Conversation

I definitely do not consider myself an expert on feminism in the least, and I do not wish to be. And I am certain that my other article - Feminism: Friend or Foe -  reflected that. Many of my examples and stories came from personal observations and conversations with my feminist friends. The example of Kyle was intended to be a depiction of many different facets of feminism. There are most definitely feminists that do believe that women are more evolved than men (like this example: http://people.com/movies/ryan-gosling-says-women-are-better-than-men-wants-female-president/) [of course, I believe that God is the creator, and therefore do not agree with evolution at all, but this is an important point to many feminists, so I included it]. And according to the modern view of feminism, holding doors for anyone breaks the sense of equality they seek to develop (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/11063234/Why-I-no-longer-hold-doors-open-for-women.html). So technically, if you think it’s a good idea for men to hold doors open for women (I definitely think it’s a good idea!) then you cannot also fully agree with feminism - the idea that seeks equality in absolutely everything, even in door holding (which should apparently, according to the feministic viewpoint, would always and only be for yourself).

I honestly didn’t know that it’s full equality that feminists seek until I received a message from a reader. And I don’t believe that Christian men (or women for that matter) seeking to follow Jesus can be feminists because, if a man is living out the pattern of masculinity that God has set for him (to be the protector and leader [see Gen. 3:16 - notice that God says “And he {Adam} shall rule over you {Eve}”, and see Eph. 5:24-25] ; and the first one to lay their life down [check out: Eph. 5:25-29]), then it’s not equality - someone else is being put before yourself.

If the church ultimately accepted the notion of feminism, it would be like throwing a grenade at ourselves - it would be like saying “Hey Enemy! Come over here and tell us what you think gender should look like!” Ultimately, after a fair bit of research this weekend, I have come to understand feminism as the view “I’ll treat you as well as you treat me!” (That is equality). Would you say that Jesus was a promoter of equality? Jesus was the servant of all - maybe one way to put it could be “the ultimate door holder” - He, more than anyone else, deserved special treatment. If I may steal a quote from an anonymous author: “Wouldst thou be a chief? Then lowly serve. Wouldst thou go up? Then go down. But go as low as you will and the Highest [Jesus] has been lower still” (emphasis added). We, as believers, are meant to be Jesus to those around us (Him living in us, and emptying us more and more of ourselves, and filling us more and more with Himself).

He didn’t get treated with equality. And I have no doubt in my mind that if our Jesus had wanted equality (in the sense of “I’ll treat you as well as you treat me”) then the entire human race would have been abruptly eliminated from the face of the earth the very day Adam and Eve sinned. God deserved our total worship, admiration, and praise, and yet when Eve sought equality with God and disregarded Him completely, it eventually ended in the reverse effect - God coming down to earth, the beautiful servant of all, who washed His disciples’ feet (His students, whom He knew would forsake Him later), healed lepers, forgave the prostitute, healed blind beggars, and let the little children come unto Him - and ultimately took our sin and bore it on the Cross. That’s some major inequality.

If our lives are going to be aligned with His, then equality gets thrown out the window, and we each must view one another as better than ourselves and seek to serve one another - no matter if the other person will serve us in return or not. If we’re totally obsessed with Jesus Christ, then our view of feminism will be radically different from the culture’s. Feminism should seem a far off notion to the Christian because, feminism is built upon the foundation of “my rights, my way, my interpretation.” This idea, as Kristen Clark has said, is woven with the same sin Satan committed in the beginning. A person whose life is built upon Jesus Christ has lost sight of oneself - one’s rights,one’s way, their interpretation - are all swallowed up in passionate pursuit of Jesus. If my life is all about Him, then I have no theme of my own - whatever He’s proclaiming is what I’m proclaiming too!

Do you believe that Jesus Christ proclaimed feminism (AKA equality)? Let’s see what His Word says:  

“Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father” (Philippians 2:5-11 ESV, emphasis added).

I’m no theologian, but I say that it was zero percent fair for Him to die for us. Jesus taking the blow for our sin = equality??? Jesus taking on the punishment I fully deserve, and making me a co-heir with Himself = totally fair? I don’t know about you, but if I took someone else’s punishment, and then shared my inheritance with them, I probably wouldn’t have felt like we had both gotten what we deserved. Jesus deserved adoration, we gave Him scorn. We absolutely and fully deserved hell because we broke His law, but He took our punishment so that we could have a chance to know Him. There’s something massively unfair and unequal about that. He gets the worse end of the deal, we get to be His children, if we will accept Him as our Lord.

What should make us uncomfortable about the “Kyle” example in my other post, is that, on almost every point, he’s nothing like Jesus!

One reader of my other feminism article said: “If feminism really did believe that men were dumb and nuisances, while women were to be exalted above others, I agree that such a philosophy would stand in opposition to the Bible. If we go with the definition that a feminist believes in the social, political, and economical equality of the sexes, then I actually believe that the Bible supports feminism and gender equality.”

The problem I have with gender equality is the simple fact that God did not create equal sexes. The definition of “equal” reveals some important thoughts:

Equal - Uniform in application or effect; without discrimination on any grounds.

I believe wholeheartedly that God values men and women the same amount - I do not believe for a moment that God has a “favorite gender.” A favorite Scripture of Christian feminists is Galatians 3:28. It says:

“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (emph. added).

If we dissect this a bit, we find that when His Word tells us that we “are all one in Christ Jesus”, the idea is not that we have no distinction between each other, but that there is unity. The Greek word there for “one” is, “εἷς, μία, ἕν” or transliterated: heis. It is also commonly translated  as -  alike, agreement, common, individual, individuality, unity -  we are the church, His bride. And oh what a day it will be when the men and women of our generation choose to stop chasing the agendas of this world - be that feminism, self-glorification, personal success, or whatever - and walk out into the open carrying absolutely nothing but the Cross! Self completely crucified, and Jesus Christ magnified and exalted. Then and only then will we be able to have the kind of unity described here in Galatians.

This is the kind of unity that is made up of men and women laboring together for the honor of their king - in the roles God has created for them. And He has given us all the information we need in His Word about what it means to be a man or woman of God. Feminism is crafted by the whims of the culture, Christ-centered masculinity and femininity were intricately designed by our God.

It is no cultural mistake that the woman has been called “the weaker vessel” (see 1 Peter 3:7). Ladies, this is the legitimate truth, and we should be excited about it! We are a picture of Christ’s bride, and if we believe that God is all-powerful, then we must agree that His bride is not all-powerful; she is dependant upon Her heavenly Bridegroom to provide for her every need - He is her strength, her joy, her peace, her endurance, and her everything. Other than Jesus Christ, there is no such man in this wide world. We, as Jesus-centered women are created for Jesus - to know Him and to make Him known. Such is the purpose of masculinity as well - that Jesus Christ would be Lord over their lives and their closest heart friend. And each man was created to be a picture of Jesus. This is why we see the man’s role as provider and initiator; it’s who our Jesus is, and the reflection He desires to see in the lives of the men around us. Ephesians 5:23 has such a great picture of this:  "For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”  

The reader continues, “In the series ‘Romans For You’ by Tim Keller… He outlines how Paul’s discussion of adoption was actually radically different than the cultural ideas of adoption at the time. In Roman culture, women were not considered valid for adoption, since adoption was seen only as a means to distribute an inheritance. Since only males could receive an inheritance, only males were considered eligible for adoption. Paul challenges this by saying that God adopts His children as sons AND daughters, going against the culture of the time and promoting women to a position of equal opportunity with men. Reasons like this are why I support gender equality from a Christian worldview.”

My response to this is, as I previously stated, God loves men and women equally, but He has different roles for them. I agree completely that God adopts His children as sons and daughters, but Paul’s intention was not to exalt women! Paul knew his position - In Christ! And the only one to be exalted as we stand in Christ is, of course, Christ! God has made us as women to be bearers of life and nurturers of relationships, but our ultimate purpose is to glorify His name! He uses the roles He has designed us for - bearers and nurturers - in many different settings, according to His will for our lives. Even if you and I never become moms biologically, we are meant to be bearers of new life - meaning that we bring the Gospel with us everywhere we go, and disciple the women God brings into our lives, as He sees fit.  

No matter how your life looks twenty years from now, His will is for you to follow Him in obedience in every area of your life. His Word is very clear about the roles and design for womanhood and manhood; this is serious stuff, unlike what our culture is telling us! It is not our job to “match” the men. There is no place in all of Scripture where we are told to pursue equality; as a matter of fact, we are commanded in His Word to have this attitude about our rights:

“Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant” (Philippians 2:5-7a).

We are commanded to be servants; not “personal rights activists.” May our womanhood ever be marked by servant-hood, and a full abandonment to Jesus Christ - in the way we view and exercise our role and in the way we understand the man’s role - and in every other place in our lives.   

I have found that if our culture is promoting something, I must not look at it from their point of view, ever. I have to see everything through the lens of God’s Word. As we navigate through current issues - feminism and beyond - we must know His Word! Or we will become the women as described in second Timothy: “But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these. For among them are those who enter into households and captivate weak women weighed down with sins, led on by various impulses, always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.” (2 Tim. 3:1-7 NASB, emph. added).

Our God is fully aware of the state of our world and the strong pull of feminism. And He is not applauding it! He knows that feminism will one day fall, and all shall be as He intended.

 “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Cor. 10:5 NIV).

A final thought for the person who has come to the end of this article and is still a feminist: do you think we will be feminists in heaven? Focused on gaining equality between men and women? If you know God’s Word, you’ve probably caught onto something - Scripture and all of life is about Him! Not us, but Him! And when we are all in eternity together our focus will be perfectly set upon Him, and there will be no temptation to look anywhere else.

Men and women of the Cross, we are citizens of heaven, even now.

May we live as such.

The Day I Failed My Driving Test

It was a cold, cloudy kind of day with fresh snow on the ground when I went to take my Driver's Skills test. If I passed this test, I could get my license by Christmas. I was nervous, to say the least, but I reasoned that I had logged nearly seventy hours of driving under supervision, so I should be ready. The instructor took me out to the car and began explaining what the test would involve; everything sounded great, until one little phrase caught me: "If you fail the parking skills portion of the test, we will not go on to the driving skills portion."

In my mind I was thinking, "Wait a second... I'm not good at parallel parking, but I can drive okay... can't we test the driving first? I'll be driving a lot more than I'll be crazy backwards parking anyways, right?" Nevertheless, I put the family minivan in drive and headed over to multiple lines of bright, orange cones with white, plastic pipes sticking out of them. "This is probably easy, I've practiced a ton. It will be great!" Umm yeah... not quite... twenty minutes later, I was sitting in the passenger sea, tearing up over the fact that I had failed.

My mom already knew most of the details, but I went ahead and re-lectured her on all the ways I should have done better. Times pulled forward while in parallel parking position: basically 1,000, cones hit when backing in: at least 2..."Maybe I'll never get my license. I am a terrible driver! I always fail." Interesting, apparently my momentary optimism had faded.

As you can see in my embarrassing story, so often we can go from the enthusiastic-optimistic-roses-are-all-red attitude, to “everything is going completely wrong.” The day before I took the test I had prayed, “Have your way in this test, Lord.” I had left it in His hands - until my moment of panic - then all the sudden I went back and basically said: “Hi Lord, do you mind if I have that burden back? Putting it on my own shoulders will be perfect.”

As my mom drove us home, I began thinking of all the reasons why this circumstance was unbelievable: it cost $50 for the test, my dad will probably be upset, now I have a “record,” and there is a houseful of people waiting at home who were going to ask with bright eyes and big smiles, “did you pass?”

Having a Christ-centered response is a whole lot more than optimism, it’s an attitude of the heart - one that the Lord wants to build into your life, and guess what? He is using all the people in your life and every circumstance to mold you into His likeness. Just as I wished the instructor had tested my driving skills instead of my parking skills, sometimes I allow myself to believe that if the Lord would only test some other area of my life — then I’d pass His test. But if He gave us our way in things, would we really become like Him?  Would we be reminded of our continual need and dependency on our Savior?

No.

After I had failed my Driver’s Skills test, there were so many things I could have chosen to be thankful for: I had a very sweet instructor, the road wasn’t icy that morning, I got signed up right away to retake the test, and more.  I’m the one who would always go around to family members and remind them, “gratitude is the inner attitude of thanksgiving!” Yet, when a difficult moment came (which was a great opportunity to live what I had already said), I complained and did not overflow with the love of Christ, as we are called to (Jn. 13:34-35).

     

That test was a lot more than just a test on my driving abilities; I believe that the Lord was testing my heart. Would I still praise Him even if I didn’t receive my desired outcome? I could have, but instead I saw it as something I deserved but hadn’t yet received. My attitude was, “Lord don’t I deserve this? I’ve been learning for a year and a half! Everyone else my age has already gotten their license.” It’s amazing how we can hide wrong motives even from ourselves! I am so thankful that God does not leave me in my sin; He loves me so much that He’s willing to let me fail, feel pain, and go through rough times so that I might glorify Him more fully. How often in your life do you allow yourself to become ungrateful, simply because things aren’t going your own way?

Another thing that happened after I had failed my test was that I allowed my mind to dwell on thoughts about myself, “maybe I’ll never get my license,” “I’m a terrible driver,” “I always fail.” I should have directed my thoughts to Christ and the fact that He never changes and never fails, even when I do. In the moments of failure, discouragement, and pain we prove who we trust, who we believe, who we want to be successful. Am I seeking to glorify myself?
Oswald Chambers once said:

“Thoughts about myself hinder my usefulness to God. God’s purpose is not to perfect me to make me a trophy in His showcase; He is getting me to the place where He can use me. Let Him do what He wants.”

When I try to pick up my own agenda and run with it, I fail miserably, but when I surrender my plans to Him, I can know that He will accomplish His will in and through me. When you and I purpose to do His work in His time and in His way, life changes - it is no longer an aching burden - but rather, a joyful assignment sent from the King Himself.
You don’t have to make my mistake! Ask the Lord to give you His response in every situation - ask that He would overtake you and that His love would be radiated through every fiber of your being.

 But don’t forget that you cannot have Christ-centered responses on your own strength, or you will fail miserably. Instead of asking yourself, “what would Jesus do in this situation?” Ask the Lord how He would like you to respond. Can you imagine how my Driver’s Test situation could have turned out differently if I had made it my first priority to bring Him glory instead of myself?